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09-19-2008, 8:56 AM Anonymous My experience(s) Like at least two other users pointed out in the Starbucks thread there are far too many people here boasting about thier imaginary conquests and taking others for fools. That is why I would like to start a new thread in which we can talk openly about our successes and failures, etc. With this in mind, I shall take the plunge and tell my story. I met this girl (let`s call her A) on a language exchange board on 2007/12/31. We exchanged pictures and talked for quite a while. Then, in March, when I went to Japan I asked her if she wanted to meet. At first she was a little bit reluctant but we ended up going out (it wasn`t a date or anything) to Ikspirari near Maihama station and Tokyo Disney Resort in Chiba Prefecture. After I came back home we went on talking to each other via MSN Messenger and e-mail. Then, in late April (one month after I left Japan, I think, but I`m not 100% sure about the dates) I told her I liked her. We started chatting on Skype and she agreed to be my girlfriend. This may seem unatural but you should bear in mind I was going (and did move) to move to Japan in July, so we`d only be separated for two months. We exchanged a lot of messages and talked for a long time so I was feeling confident when I arrived here in Japan. We met but you know what happened? Well, she took her words back and said that maybe we should go back to being friends! After that she sends me an e-mail saying that I looked "otaku"... I couldn`t stand the humiliation so I decided to end my life. That`s correct. I went to a hotel in Higashi Shinjuku and overdoses on anti-depressants (I suffer from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). Strangely enough some sadistic bastard "saved" my life and I woke up three days later at the hospital with my parents by my bedside. I wondered around the city for several days until I started corresponding with another penpal of mine. We had first started talking on 6/24 (I was still in Europe) but she asked me if I wanted to go for a drink on 7/26. I agree and we met in Shibuya. I guess that because I had almost died I was much bolder so, after we had dinner, I asked her if she "had to go home". I actually didn`t say this, but rather wrote it! We had this little exchange on my notebook and she agreed to come with me to a hotel in Shinjuku (the second one I had staied in when I was here in Japan) and we made love. We made love almost everyday until the first of August. However, life isn`t that nice....On July 30 she sends me a message saying she had been seeing a 39 year old man who was married to a Japanese woman for the visa only (I`ve never seen him in person but she says he`s austrian). From that point onwards it`s literally been hell. Everyday is a bloody nightmare...no matter how many times I asked her to stay with me, no matter how many times I told her we could have a very nice time together she just keeps saying weird things...she says she`s going abroad, even if just for a short period of time. Anyway, this is my (weird but true) story. Not a very glorious one, but maybe it`s interesting to someone. Please tell me (us) your story too!a

09-19-2008, 9:23 AM Anonymous Re: My experience(s) That is a seriously disturbed story. Why don´t you just forget about this girl, who clearly is nothing but trouble? There are millions of girls out there. Half the population of the friggin planet is female, ever thought about that? Relax, get a life, and you find a GF with no effort.

09-19-2008, 9:48 AM Anonymous Re: My experience(s) It`s not that simple, as far as I am concerned. Maybe it comes easy to you but I`m very shy and have several personality issues which make it hard for me to relax and socialize. Why don`t you share your experiences here? Did you meet anyone recently? If so where and how? If not, tell us about someone you met in the past. I would also appreciate if you didn`t call my story "disturbed/disturbing". Calling it weird is one thing, but using such strong terms if a little bit hurtful if not outright rude.

09-19-2008, 11:21 PM Anonymous Re: My experience(s) Interesting story, I am curious as to how old you are. Japanese women are great and it is not too hard to make friends/get laid. I think Japanese women overlook negative traits that perhaps western women would see as a problem. Whether Japanese chicks are easy or not it gives most western guys in Japan a confidence boost. Your current friend sounds weird, dump her and move on. It is probably just making your condition worse.

09-22-2008, 8:15 AM Anonymous Re: My experience(s) I apologize for the late response. I am currently 19 years old. I was also 19 years old when all this happened. I`m not the least bit concerned with Japanese girls being called "easy", in the sense I think the only difference between something which is obtained easily and another thing which is harder to get your hands on is that the latter is a pain in the rear. However, ever since I was 12 I`ve been having panic attacks with varying degrees of frequency and these are very often trigged by a feeling of separation or rejection from or by women. This means I bond very easily to girls. After I had sex with the girl I met on the internet, in my mind, I would like to be with her forever. I still think the same but, the last time I sent her a message telling her I would like to meet and talk things through in a logical way, she simply said she was too tired translating this stupid video from German to Japanese. It`s been exactly one week since that last message and she hasn`t said anything. I wanted to send her messages, call her but I decided against it as it wouldn`t change anything. It`d only "reset" the clock and probably meet her expectations. Instead I`ve devised this little trick which consists of writing whatever it is I want to tell her in a text file instead of sending it to her. When I do that, I can vent my frustration without actually having to make a fool of myself by begging her to come back to me.

09-22-2008, 5:44 PM Anonymous Re: My experience(s) You need to seek professional help before you harm yourself or others. This IS the wrong forum to be writing of your problems. I have to agree with the earlier poster... your writing about yourself and your problems is DISTURBING! No... it is not wierd... it is DISTURBING!

09-22-2008, 9:10 PM Nino Joined on 10-16-2007 Posts 30 Re: My experience(s) To the OP: You are 19. I have been 19 too, and I remember the emotional turmoil with all those hormones raging inside me. Actually, at 19 I was still a virgin and drooling after ever skirt. I can absolutely imagine the total high it must have been to have sex with that J-girl. And of course you want more of that. I totally understand that. But now listen: The way to get more sex is not to stalk that particular girl, who obviously is done with you. The way to get more is to forget about her and just be yourself. The more relaxed you are, the easier you will find it to find another girl. I know that is hard to get into your head, but that is the way it is. Many others have been there before you. Absolutely nothing good can come out of obsessing over this girl. And you will get older and more mature naturally, if you can stop trying to kill yourself. Hope I am not wasting good advice here...    Report

09-22-2008, 11:58 PM Anonymous Re: My experience(s) I appreciate your advice. I just want to make it clear I`m not stalking anyone. Like I wrote, I haven`t sent her any messages in almost 8 days. I haven`t tried following her, phoning her or anything a stalker might do so why am I being called a stalker? I ask this because that`s a pretty serious accusation to make, as it is a serious crime in itself. In the end she made her choice. It was a dumb one in the sense she knew I had enough money for us to lead a very nice life. Instead of working at a stupid conbini and at some german restaurant with a strange sounding name she could be going to S.Korea or Taipei or America or whatever. Maybe she didn`t believe me when I told her I could do all that, even though it`s pretty obvious from my (I admit) rather twisted lifestyle. Finally, I would just like to ask if this really has something to do with age. Just recently one of my friends who is 27 broke up with his girlfriend. He really liked her but, one day, she simply decided to tell him her feelings weren`t that deep...after a 5 year relationship! I suppose you can imagine just how painful it was for him. At any rate I`m sick and tired of this ***. I will move on, find someone else and jump of a bridge before things go wrong. Better to go out in style while things are working than be abandoned and left to roam the streets like a beggar. Just imagine this:no more phone calls, no more e-mails, no more having to do anything. Beautiful! And no one will bother you...this assuming there isn`t a god, of course. P.S.- Isn`t there an easier way to introduce paragraphs in this board than to type the HTML tags yourself? To whom it may concern: for the sake of future users, please fix it.

09-23-2008, 4:08 AM Anonymous Re: My experience(s) Pal, yes, this will get better with age. As you age, you still have emotions and might still do stupid things, but the highs and lows are not that high and low any more. And stop this suicide talk. We all die eventually... until then, why don´t you enjoy your life, especially if you are healthy and financially OK. Terminal cancer would be reason for suicide. But not lovesickness, at 19. The previous posters were right. Forget her, do something that interests you, and girls will pop into your life all by themselves.

09-23-2008, 7:40 AM Anonymous Re: My experience(s) YAWN... and, next on Oprah, we will have a 19-year old that actually fell in love with the first girl he had sex with... BLAH, BLAH, BLAH... Call the WAAAubulance.

09-23-2008, 10:57 AM Anonymous Re: My experience(s) I don`t love her. In fact, when I think about it there is very little I like about her. Actually I`ve had sex with dozens of whores before I even met her, so she technically wasn`t the first girl I had sex with. Don`t you get tired of having to play a role in front of these girls? I`ve been chatting with this girl from　Osaka. I`m gonna meet her there and I think there`s a very high likelihood we`ll have some fun together. In theory this is all nice and dandy but she flirts with me because of my ethnical background. Liking people of a specific race is perfectly okay as far as I am concerned, but the truth is I couldn`t care less about "latino" culture. I don`t like dancing, I don`t like or even know anything about raggae or house or night clubs in Roppongi or Shibuya. If I tell her that, though, nothing will ever happen. This means that, like I did to the other two girls, I`ll have to go on lying in order to more or less prevent their illusionary world of gangsta pimps and oiled-up ladies from vanishing into thin air. I don`t know about you but I don`t enjoy Sex and the City, I don`t enjoy hollywood movies, I don`t like to get wasted at Gaspanic in Shibuya, I like wearing a shirt and a tie, I hate smoking and all I dream of doing is go take pictures of trains with a girl I like. It`s more or less become obvious people like me (who don`t like drinking or smoking and enjoy "nerdy" things) tend to be hated so there I go playing my role. Kind of pointless, isn`t it? If I go to Ikebukuro I pay a whore 10,000 yen and I get a blowjob, sumata and some kissing. If you think carefully isn`t that much cheaper than lying about every single aspect your life day after day?

09-23-2008, 5:23 PM Anonymous Re: My experience(s) You are young but getting married is not the solution. You will probably end up having less sex if you get married and you will go back to visiting pros. I am sure also you can do better than a girl working in a combini. Just remember the three F's. If you want to have a lot of fun sex go to Thailand or the Philippines for a while.

09-23-2008, 5:30 PM Anonymous Re: My experience(s) Help! This board has turned into Oprah.

09-24-2008, 9:40 PM Anonymous Re: My experience(s)  Anonymous wrote: Help! This board has turned into Oprah. This is exactly what I wrote earlier. Actually... I find the OP postings to be very disturbing... almost unstable and dangerous to any women he might meet. I believe any little thing could make him snap. Then, again... the OP might just be a full of sh!t, junior-high school student trying to stir up reactions while he sits at home jerking-off.

09-25-2008, 7:21 AM Anonymous Re: My experience(s) Maybe you`re right and I can get better but I think 18/19 year old girls usually work in such places.Conbini, restaurants, cafes, etc. I don`t think we should dwell in dark subjects anymore. I do not want to turn this into what posters have described as the Ophah or Dr. Phil show so I would like to go on with the story without the melodrama On the 23rd I got an e-mail　from a girl. This girl K had posted an ad in the same website I met the other girls. She apologized for the late reply but, even though I usually print screen all the ads I reply to, I couldn`t really establish a connection between her e-mail address, name and the username she used at that website. During the first day we exchanged 19 messages. After that, though, we started exchanging messages more frequently and at some point she asks me if I want to go to Tokyo Tower next week. It`ll apparently turn pink in celebration of its 50th anniversary. The facts are these:she`s 18, moved to Hachioji from the northern and is now living alone. She asked me if I wanted to go to TT (I wanted to ask her that but I had messed up things with another girl due to my impatience so I didn`t want to risk it) but only if I didn`t have a girlfriend. I tell her I don`t and ask her if she has a bf. She says yes but...he`s Italian and living in Italy. This doesn`t make any sense. I would understand if he were an exchange student or something like that, but this "long, long distance relationship" (as she herself describes it) sounds sketchy at best. Furthermore she said she "wasn`t a nice girl and was sorry for her boyfriend". Am I being too optimistic? I`m also working on the girl from Osaka, but I would like to get something going with K. I`ll be going to S. Korea on 10/8 and after that I`ll go to Osaka and Kyoto. I have so much time I can pretty much go anywhere so I think I`ll go to Yamaguchi after that. The reaosn is simply: why not? I suppose. I like the name.

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